Showing posts with label self-help. Show all posts
Showing posts with label self-help. Show all posts

May 21, 2012

The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg

I am a self-help junkie. I love to read books that promise they can change my life if I just follow a few easy steps. So I'll admit I originally agreed to read The Power of Habit because I thought it was another self-help book that could make me become a better person. It wasn't. It was even better.

The Power of Habit is a book written about the science behind habits - what habits are, why they exist, and how they can changed. It talks not only about habits in individuals but also about habits in successful organizations and how organizations use the science of habits to be more successful. Do you ever wonder how Target can send you coupons for the exact thing you need at the store or why you find yourself drawn to the Cinnabon counter in a mall? This book explains those ideas and best of all, it explains how you can change habits.

Has this book changed my life? No. Could it? Yes, I do believe it could if I followed the principles laid out so simply in the book. Regardless of if you want to change habits in your own life, this book is definitely worth reading. It was fascinating to learn about the science of habits and how I can drive myself home when I couldn't give someone directions to my apartment to save my life. This book was filled with so many incredible insights and I highly recommend it to anyone. 5 stars.

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May 11, 2012

Mom Connection by Tracey Bianchi


Being a mom to a young child can be so hard.  I know, I go through it every day.  When your day in and day out consists of a rigorous schedule that you must keep in order to maintain your sanity, life can become monotonous.  Daily tasks include feeding- sometimes force feeding, changing diapers, making potty runs, changing clothes- sometimes 3 times a day, wiping noses, wiping hands, filling sippy cups, cleaning spills, buckling car seats, singing the ABC's- again and again and again, forcing nap time, giving baths, making dinner, watching Mickey Mouse Club House- again and again and again... ok, you get the picture.  Here's where some of you scoff and say, "that's not so bad".  Yeah, you're right, it's pretty great!

BUT!!! It's easy to become disconnected, isolated and depressed.  How does this happen with so much activity and responsibilities every day?  It's easy when the only person you talk to ALL day EVERY day is a 2 year old.  When all your friends are working or not yet moms and when your husband comes home from a long day at work and doesn't want to hear about the latest diaper dilema, your life becomes very lonely.

That's what Mom Connection by Tracey Bianchi is all about.  How to get our groove back... our rhythm. How to see the need to connect with other people and take it!  How to step out of our comfort zones and remember that we CAN'T walk this path alone!  By nature we are relational... women especially!

Tracey splits her book into 3 sections that each focus on a different area of our life as a mom in order to help us get that rhythm back on track.  The first section teaches us to let go of the Mom-petition and realize that we need one another for connection.  We learn that our weaknesses and our strengths don't have to divide us, but can uplift us and bring us closer together.  In the second section, she discusses all the people around us that move to our groove... our families, our extended families, our friends, our spouses and even our communities.  And in the final section, she really challenges us to reach out and help others to find their rhythms too.

I LOVED this book!  I laughed out loud, I cried unashamedly, I sometimes looked over my shoulder to see where the hidden camera was... because seriously, some of this could have been written by ME!  It just really goes to show what an amazing connector Tracey is!  She's a mom just like us... she knows what we struggle with daily... she knows what our greatest fears and failures are... and she's not afraid to call us out on it!  She uplifted me more than once and I would say, "HECK YES!" to her words of affirmation.

If you're a mom to a preschooler and you're feeling disconnected, you NEED to pick up this book and reclaim your rhythm!

5 Stars!

I am giving away a FREE copy of this book on my personal blog, so please follow THIS LINK to enter.  (Review is the same, just scroll to the bottom for giveaway rules).

I received a complimentary copy of this book for the purpose of this review... this is my honest opinon


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February 29, 2012

The Social Media Mind by David Amerland

The Social Media Mind dives into the ways that social media has influenced, impacted and changed marketing, businesses and the way we think forever.

Amerland goes into specific detail about how using Google, Twitter and Facebook has made a huge difference in the way businesses are run now.  He talks about how consumers have changed over the years and want to buy from a company that has a face and a story.  Companies that utilize these forms of social media marketing to the highest potential gain the trust and loyalty of their consumers.

He provides interesting tid-bits of the way social media, when used correctly, has helped boost a companies reputation and revenues.  On the same token, when used incorrectly or not at all, how those companies have struggled with image and acceptability.  He uses large companies as examples, such as Gap, Blackberry, Starbucks and Ford.

He includes vital events that have most recently taken place and have changed the way that social media works.  For example, Facebook's last conference, f8, which revealed Facebook's future plans as well as the recent addition of the timeline.  Or Google's effort to match Facebook in the media world with their social networking site, Google+. Or the Occupy Wallstreet movement.  It was interesting to learn the back-story and inside scoop on these events.

However, for all the "interesting tid-bits" that this book contained, the writing was sub-par with lots of rambling.  It was also much too long for this subject and did not really offer any new or "A-Ha" moments that differ from other areas on this subject.  The author also very obviously favors Google over Facebook, and it was annoying to have his biased opinion.  I also fear that this book will no longer be relevant within the next 6 months.  The internet, social media and social networks are changing by the day... in 6 months time, this book will be outdated.

I picked up this book because in the description it boasted on being able to help give practical tools for getting heard.  I have a little personal family blog that I'd like to see grow (shameless plug, I know) and I was looking for more tools on exactly how to do that.  This book did not provide me with anything which would support that.

Who then is this book good for?  People who are interested in learning "tid-bits" behind monster companies such as Google and Facebook.  And small businesses who have not ventured into social media marketing and want to understand why it's so important in today's world.

2 Stars
I received a free copy of this book in return for my honest opinion... this is it. 

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October 19, 2011

Folks, This Ain't Normal by Joel Salatin

In Folks, This Ain't Normal, Joel Salatin describes how the lives we lead in the 21st century are just not normal.  The way we view food needs, food quantities, conservation, the environment and even our families are unlike those of any other time in history before us.

When we take a look back into history, just 75 years ago, we see that things were done very differently.  Some of this change has been great... the advancements in medication, simplicities of transportation, etc.  But with this change, other issues have arisen and our world is facing the consequences of poor management for the past century.  Salatin says that the way we do things today, and our mentality about these things, "just ain't normal".  In his book, he outlines practical steps to return to normalcy.

Joel Salatin knows what he's talking about.  He was one of the featured farmers on a little documentary (perhaps you've heard of it) Food Inc.  He is also a distributor for the national food chain, Chipotle and runs a magnificent farm, Polyface.

Personally, I found this book to be so interesting, but a little too detailed.  Truth is, I'm not a farmer... and although I'd like to make small steps to become more "green", I can't see myself doing some of the stuff he recommends.  And, that's just the problem he speaks about... people like me, normal non-farmers, who are not willing to make a change.  Eh.

He goes into extreme detail about forestry and the different needs for the different trees.  I don't know the difference between a palm and a pine (ok maybe that one, but you know..).  He talks for page after page after page about manure.  I don't need to know all that crap about... crap.  He challenges us suburbanites to get 2 chickens in our backyards.  No thanks.  He goes bananas on people who play video games.  He calls women to their proper place... the kitchen.  He tells us we shouldn't rely on supermarkets to supply our food, but should have a years supply in our basement.  Although true, that's quite a task!

Although the book was really interesting, some of it was just hard to swallow.  I think this book would be great for agricultural buffs, real greenies (not the farmers market kind), and people ready to make BIG changes.  For me, it read a little like a text book and was hard to get through... in fact, I only made it 60% through.

I'm not going to rate this one with stars... that would be unfair.  This just wasn't the book for me, but it may be for you.  Give it a try... at the very least, you'll learn something completely new.  And, who knows?  Maybe you'll get inspired!

I received a free copy of this book for the purpose of this review.  These are my honest thoughts and opinions.
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July 1, 2011

The Playful and Powerful Warrior Within You by GJ Reynolds

The Playful and Powerful Warrior Within You is written by a man who has been to the rock bottom and back. He's been on the brink of suicide and crawled his way back to the top. This book shares his inspiring story as he found a way to find the playful and powerful warrior inside of himself as well as how you can find that warrior in yourself as well.

I chose to read this book because the title caught my eye. I've seen, read, and reviewed numerous self-help books but this was one of the first that put an emphasis on being playful in your lives. If you hadn't noticed already, my blogging name is Playful Professional and my personal blog is talenttoplay.blogspot.com. If it isn't obvious enough, I like to play. And being your best self by adding playfulness back into your life intrigued me because I 100% agree with that idea.

While I agree with the idea and think that the book had a lot of potential as a concept, I feel it fell flat in the structure. Each of the chapters focuses on one specific element to find the warrior within you - things like being authentic, forgiving yourself, and having fun and enjoying the journey along the way. All great ideas that I'm sure would be very helpful but the chapters were filled with so much text that rather than enjoying the journey, I got bored.

Pictures, quotes, practical applications would go a long way to help this book be not only more enjoyable to read but more useful for real life. Being given reasons for why you should be authentic are great but I want to know ideas and ways to be authentic rather than the false version of me that everyone expects. I will say that at the end of the chapter the author includes a couple of practical applications for each idea but because of that and the heavy amounts of text only in each chapter, I found myself wanting to skip to the end of each chapter.

So overall this was an okay book that could have been great. Great idea, poor execution. 3 stars.

I received a free copy of this book to review.

May 11, 2011

Shift by Takumi Yamazaki

I'll keep this short and sweet - this book confused me.

The full title of the book is Shift: 13 exercises to make you who you want to be. I was expecting 13 written out, well-defined exercises for me to do to get some motivation and put my life back on track. It started out well; at first I thought the book was going to be about shifting my perspective and teaching me to think about things in a different way, which is where the first half was leading me. But around the middle of the book I got lost and couldn't figure out again what the purpose of the book really was or how I was supposed to use it. The last half of the book is full of what Yamazaki calls techniques (there's 17 of them), and I'm just not sure how those were different than the 13 shifts. Or again how I was supposed to use them.

I think overall there is a lot of good information in this book, but the way it was organized and laid out left me feeling more lost than I was before I started reading it. In short, this book just wasn't for me. It had potential but I need clear, concise instructions and a structure that's easy for me to follow. And I didn't get that in Shift.

I was given a free copy of this book to review. This is my honest and unbiased opinion.



April 3, 2011

Couples Who Pray by Squire Rushnell and Louise Duart

Couples Who Pray is a book written for married couples by a husband and wife team. It is a book explaining the benefits of couples who not only pray, but couples who pray together regularly, every day even. Included with the benefits is an actual 40-day prayer challenge that asks you and your spouse to pray together every day for 40 days straight for at least five minutes. And finally, the book includes numerous celebrity testimonies of how prayer and the 40-day prayer challenge specifically changed their marriage.

I'll admit I was hoping for a lot more from this book, but that might be because my husband and I already pray on a regular basis. I was hoping for some sort of guidance or helpful tips to make prayer more meaningful between couples, but I felt like that was included in just two pages of the entire 200 page book. If I needed to be convinced of the benefits of praying together, I may have a different opinion but for me reading the book just got old after a while. Statistic about praying together, example from some celebrity, why you should pray together, repeat. And the great 40-day prayer challenge, as far as I could tell, it's nothing more than making the commitment to pray together for 40 days straight. Yes, I get that's as a challenge but the cover and the description of the book made it seem a little more in-depth and guided. There may be some benefit in this book for those who are seeing a counselor with a Christian counseling degree. For those interested in this degree, more information can be found here.

So overall I was disappointed in the book and felt like name-dropping was more emphasized than the actual overall purpose, which is sad because I'm a firm believer that praying together as a couple is very beneficial to any marriage.

*I received a copy of this book to review through the Book Sneeze blogger program and while this review may not match your own, it is my honest opinion. 2 stars.


March 27, 2011

101 Ways to Meditate by Linda A. Lavid

I'll just throw it out there from the start - I do a lot of self-study, reflecting, etc. but have no experience with meditation. I agreed to review this book with the hope that I would gain some insight into it, which I did and I also realized that I'm probably not going to add meditation as one of my hobbies anytime in the near future. I know it's beneficial and helpful to those who use it, but I've already got enough things that I'm trying to fit into my day, including my own sort of daily reflection and study, and meditation just doesn't fit in right now.

But enough about me, let's get on to the book itself. 101 Ways to Meditate is broken up into four separate what I'm going to call sections. The first section is a couple of pages long and is supposed to prepare you for the book and for meditation itself. The second section includes information regarding meditation basics - things you should know for every type of meditation like doing it for 20 minutes, using a journal, etc. The third section is what the book is all about, the 101 ways to meditate. But in reality after reviewing the different ways to meditate, I felt like they were more along the lines of things to meditate upon like a beautiful moment, someone you love, or a desire you have. The basic premise of each way to meditate is the same, which is where the basics of meditation come in.

And the final section is a 30 day meditation journal where you're supposed to write and draw regarding your experience with that day's meditation. Each day has a different meditation topic to use from the list of 101 in the previous section so you're guided in your meditation. And that's it. Guidelines, topics, and an area to reflect all wrapped up into one nice short book.

Like my review of Blessed Beyond Measure, I feel like this could be a helpful book to the right person. It is organized neatly into different sections that make everything easy to find, but I'm not sure this would be my first resource to pick up if I were to start in on meditation. And I was actually a little confused with the journal at the end that walked you through 30 different meditation topics in a seemingly unknown order (#1, #22, #97, #14, etc.). The journal itself actually just felt like an appendix rather than an actual part of the whole.


March 26, 2011

The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman

I've heard about this book for years but never actually stopped to read it. Not until I'd had the conversation multiple times with my husband about how our "love languages" were different (quoting a book I actually knew nothing about other than it exists) did I realize I probably should pick up this book and give it a shot.

Do you prefer that someone give you a huge, surprise you with a small gift, tell you that you're beautiful, do the dishes for you, or talk to you for hours at night? Those five items represent what Gary Chapman calls the five love languages - words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. For most of us, we have one that speaks to our needs the most. For me, it's gifts. For my husband, it's physical touch. According to Chapman's book, speaking two different love languages is like someone that only speaks Chinese trying to communicate with someone who only speaks English. You're just never going to understand each other unless you each learn to speak the other's language.

Makes sense right? The difficult part is learning that language, especially one like Chinese that may or may not come naturally to you. Luckily Gary gives practical applications for each of the love languages, simple things like giving your spouse a gift every day for one week and holding your spouse's hand while shopping. Things to make the jump into the deep end of fluency a little easier. But in the end, as he says, "love is a choice," and sometimes you have to choose to do things not because they are good for you but because they are good for someone else. I haven't tested any of the theories and applications in this book yet, but you'd better believe I will be. Because what harm is there in spending more time on finding ways to love my husband. If it doesn't work, there are worse ways I could have spent my time.

And my review of the book itself - it's organized in a very simple manner. Each love language gets its own chapter with a list of ten practical applications for that language. And the most helpful part of the book - the profile quizzes at the end that help you figure out (if it's not obvious) which is your own primary love language.


March 6, 2011

The Me Project by Kathi Lipp

If you haven't noticed, I tend to read a lot of "achieve your goals" and "better your life" type books. Just in the past few years I've read and reviewed A Woman in Her Workplace, Walk Like You Have Somewhere to Go, Super Life Secret Codes, Good Girls Don't Have to Dress Bad, and Simple Compassion. So yes, I do tend to read a number of self-help type books, anything to get me motivated to live better life.

The Me Project by Kathi Lipp is another one of those, take simple steps to put yourself first and become the woman you want to be books. Lipp helps you choose one goal and guides your through three weeks of simple steps to really focus and do all you can to meet that goal. Each day is something small like forming a support group (your project team), putting together a plan (your project plan) to help you reach your goal, and so on. The steps she goes through for the goal are all very doable and very helpful. And because my profession is actually a project manager, I really like the idea of thinking of a goal as a project and then planning out the steps necessary to complete that project.

The one negative I found to this book for me personally was that I felt like all of the steps were good ones for getting your life back on track, but I'm really not sure if they would help me achieve a long-term goal like running a marathon for instance. I think they would be useful for a short-term goal or building a foundation, but I did feel like many of the steps were one-time things to keep you focused on the goal and once the three weeks was up, I'm not quite sure what happens then.

Overall the writing was concise, readable, and enjoyable but I'm not sure this would be the first of the many self-help books I'd pick up again or recommend to other people. Because I'd actually just had a book club meeting about it, I had to compare this to The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin, and The Me Project definitely did not inspire me in the same way as Gretchen Rubin did. 4 stars.

January 8, 2011

Super Life Secretcodes by Great Sun

I am generally an open-minded person. I have pretty defined views on religion and spirituality in my own life but an pretty open minded when it comes to other people's views and spirituality. I agreed to read Great Sun's Super Life Secretcodes because the premise of the book sounded intriguing - secret codes to help you change your life for the better. Who couldn't use a little help right?

This is one of the first books that i have agreed to review and just couldn't finish, which I feel terrible about but I felt like someone was standing above me saying that up is actually down, vampires actually exist, and the man who write this book was actually able to solve my problems with his spiritual superpowers. I know that sounds harsh, but it was difficult for me to read the first couple of chapters where people's problems were solved just by meeting with someone. I am open-minded, but this supernatural/psychic writing was too much for me after the first 50 pages. I tried reading a couple of the later chapters and was just as uncomfortable. And I made the decision that it may be unprofessional of me to not finish reading the book, but that risk was better than putting my mind through reading something that was so against my beliefs, judgement, and heart.

The writing was fine, but the content was not for me so I give this book just 1 star and don't in any way recommend it to anyone.

November 10, 2010

Green Books Campaign: Taming Marital Arguments

This review is part of the Green Books campaign.Today 200 bloggers take a stand to support books printed in an eco-friendly manner by simultaneously publishing reviews of 200 books printed on recycled or FSC-certified paper. By turning a spotlight on books printed using eco- friendly paper, we hope to raise the awareness of book buyers and encourage everyone to take the environment into consideration when purchasing books.

The campaign is organized for the second time by Eco-Libris, a green company working to make reading more sustainable. We invite you to join the discussion on "green" books and support books printed in an eco-friendly manner! A full list of participating blogs and links to their reviews is available on Eco-Libris website.
I choose this book to review from a list of books because not only was it printed on environmental paper, it sounded intriguing to me. If you're married like I am, arguments are just a part of life. Finding a solution to have better and more productive arguments sounded like a good read to me. And it was.

Taming Marital Arguments: Breaking out of the T.R.A.P by Robert P. Rugel walks through a typical 3-step argument sequence that happens so often in marriage, what he refers to as a trap. First, one spouse triggers (very often accidentally) the argument, this trigger inadvertenly threatens (hurts their self-esteem, makes them feel not wanted) the other spouse, so the threatened spouse automatically goes on the defensive and reacts in a way to protect themselves by likewise threatening or blaming their spouse. And the circle continues until no one even knows why the argument started and both spouses are hurt and frustrated.

Rugel walks through numerous real-life examples in his book, and I'm sure at least one example would resonate with all of us. The nice thing about the book is that after Rugel explains how the majority of married couples go through this, he also explains how to solve the problem, or at least better it - talk through what the major argument triggers are. Are they money related? Sex? Housework? Learning to identify the major triggers helps you to avoid them in the first place, which also helps to avoid falling into the trap sequence.

Overall I thought this book was very helpful and eye-opening. Sometimes you need to have someone else tell you're missing right in front of your very face. And I know that since reading this book I have been much better about looking for the things that may trigger an argument and nipping it at the bud. I would recommend this book to anyone in any relationship but especially anyone that is married. 5 stars.


April 2, 2010

Green: Surviving the Murder of Self by D. Malone

Being a big memoir reader these days, I jumped at the chance to receive a review copy of Green: Surviving the Murder of Self.

While I wasn't sure what to expect, what I got was a memoir/self-help book encouraging the reader to live first for themselves. This is not a mindset that I think we really have a problem with doing, but even more, I think it is one that is unhelpful to ourselves and to those around us. Life is not about me, and it's not about you.

At one point early on Malone says, "There should not be the sacrifice of oneself for another, because we were all created equally."

On this Good Friday, I am SO thankful that that is not true...and I willing choose to follow my Savior's example and sacrifice myself for others. NOT that I allow them to "walk all over me," but still, I know that there will be times when they will sin against me.

I do not recommend this book.

January 5, 2010

GIVEAWAY: The One-Day Way by Chantel Hobbs

This book was provided to me for review by the WaterBrook Multnomah Publishing Group.

I've never read a dieting/excercise/healthy living book before, but I was interested in reading this one as it didn't seem like Hobbs had any hook (i.e. you have to buy MY food/exercise products for this to work) and I was interested in getting more motivation to get healthy.

In The One-Day Way Hobbs doesn't outline a particular weight-loss program, but merely puts forth one main idea: if you're going to meet your weight loss goal, you have to do it a day at a time.

Basically, she wants us to forget about past mistakes and the pressure of keeping up past successes as well as the long-term and out-of-reach goals. Instead, focus on making the right choices today.

I greatly appreciate this approach to getting healthy. It's individualized...what I need to do today is not what you need to do today. It focuses on the individual choices that we make all the time: what to eat, what to do, etc. Instead of aiming to work out 20 times this month (umm, which I'm not), I should aim to workout today (which I SHOULD...).

The battle is always won or lost in the moment. THAT's where my focus should be.

My only problem with this book is that as a believer (which I believe she is) Hobbs does not take it to gospel as she could have. She comes close, but falls short.

I recommend this book to anyone looking for a fresh start in the new year. To help you out with that, I have one copy of this book to giveaway.

This contest is open to anyone in the US or Canada. To enter to win, just leave a comment on this post (if you don't leave a way for me to contact you, you are obviously disqualified). Giveaway will be open until January 15th, 4 PM Eastern.

July 7, 2009

Rest: Living in Sabbath Simplicity by Keri Wyatt Kent

Rest by Keri Wyatt Kent is one of those books that I was really excited about reviewing. The back cover asks the question, "Is it possible to learn how to rest so that we have the energy and focus to live a meaningful and joyful life?" I was hoping the book would provide an answer to the overwhelming nature my life has taken on recently. And it may have. It definitely gave me a lot of great ideas that I'm planning to try out.

The book goes through six different aspects of the practicing the Sabbath, each piece tied into the big picture of just stopping for a moment (or a day) to regain our strength and push through the next week. Each of the six aspects was covered in a chapter with a good explanation of the concept, examples of how other families made it work for them, and best of all, real life suggestions for making it work for you. Some people can't take an entire day off so she suggests just a couple of hours to start. A lot of great examples and suggestions made me feel as a reader that this was something I could do.

I'll admit, Sundays are the Sabbath for me right now but I could do a lot better with making it more of a defined rest day. I don't go shopping, run errands, or workout. Anything that would be forcing someone else to work, I don't do. But there is so much more I could do to make the day more restful and peaceful, a day to rejuvenate for the coming week. Maybe then I wouldn't feel so burnt out by the end of the week.

The six concepts she emphasizes in her book as part of the Sabbath are:


  1. Resting- I loved this quote, "They say insanity is when you keep doing the same thing over and over, expecting the same results. So if running like crazy equals getting nowhere, then it's a little crazy that more running could ever equal getting somewhere." Just stop and take a break from everything.
  2. Reconnecting- taking the day to reconnect with yourself, the people around you, and God.
  3. Revising- Creating a restful Sabbath takes practice. It's not something that you write down on paper once and do it that same way for the next 100 years. You try something out, revise that plan and try something else. Just start and keep adjusting until you've gotten it right. And when that is no longer right, try something else.
  4. Pausing- One of my favorite parts of the book was an analogy between people and breathing. There are three parts of each breath- breathing in, breathing out, pause. Repeat. This is how our lives should work as well. This section also talks about giving up multi-tasking for focusing on each part of our lives for chunks of time. People are more productive that way and are able to give more attention to that specific thing. Back to the whole just stopping thing.
  5. Playing- I'm good at this one. Kent goes through the importance of playing, really just playing for the fun of it (not to win) and how everyone lets down their guard a little bit while playing games. I completely agree with this and loved this section. I've always been a board games type of girl and really think it's the way to connect with new people.
  6. Praying- Kent brings the book full circle in the final section where she explains the importance of using the Sabbath to reconnect and build an intimate relationship with God. Whether it's through prayer for ourselves, for the poor, or for anyone else, prayer is again a way to just stop and enjoy ourselves without getting caught up in the details.

So overall, I thoroughly enjoyed this book. I love Kent's style of writing because not only did she provide facts (e.g., there is a pause between each of our breaths), she also provided every day examples of ways to incorporate these ideas into each of our lives. And even if you're not religious at all, I recommend this book to anyone because all of us can benefit from the reminder to just take a step back and take a break so that you can keep moving forward.

May 27, 2009

Principle of the Path by Andy Stanley

I received this book to read and review through the Thomas Nelson's Book Review Blogger Program. It's one of the first non-fiction books I've read in a long time, and it made me want to start reading more informational type books because this was thought-provoking for me.

This book is about what Stanley calls "The Principle of the Path." Basically the principle he sets out in the book is that the decisions you make determine your destination. He goes on to explain the more intricate details of this principle such as the fact that we tend to sway towards the things that grab our attention and that in order to be where we want to be in our lives, we need to make the decisions that will get us there not just think about what we need to do to get there.

So I know this doesn't sound that compelling but for me it was eye opening for the sake that it reminded me that no matter how good my intentions are, it doesn't do any good unless I take action on those intentions. I'm not going to lose weight if I just think about how I should not eat that second piece of cake (or first for that matter), and I won't strengthen relationships if I only think about calling up that old friend. Stanley uses a lot of real-life examples that really brought all of his points home for me, and I've definitely started thinking more about where I spend my time and the decisions I make since I read this book.

One of the last parts of the principle is that sometimes we just need to allow ourselves to be directed by God's will for us rather than trying to decide what's best for ourselves. Stanley really demonstrates this point well as a final culmination on the principle that comes around full circle- our decisions determine our destination, but the destination we're trying to reach should ultimately be determined by God. I would definitely recommend this book to anyone really because do you know anyone that's really in the exact place they want to be in all parts of their life? We could all use a little guidance on making good decisions. 4 stars.

October 13, 2008

Running Scared by Ed Welch

This is a book that I was required to read for my Counseling Individuals with Problematic Emotions class, but I am so glad I did. I struggle with worry, but I'm usually too prideful to admit it.

I had just read Welch's book on Depression when I picked this one up, and I was shocked at the change of tone. I quickly figured out why: fear and worry were a real issue in Welch's life. He knows exactly what it feels like to be overcome with anxiety. It was as if he was writing this book for his own benefit, and not just the benefit of the reader.

Welch deals with three major areas of worry: worry about money, the fear of man, and the fear of death. He also spends several chapters talking about peace. He recommends that each chapter be read individually, and then discussed/shared with someone else before you moved on. I think this would have been helpful to do, but not practical for me as I had to read this book in order to write a paper on it.

Some great quotes:

"God tests us because we are so oblivious to the mixed allegiances in our hearts." - p. 75

"Fear and worry are not mere emotions; they are expressions of what we hold dear. They reveal the loyalties of our hearts." - p. 161

"There's that question again that undergirds so much worry: Why am I so concerned about me?" - p. 180

"God does not forgive you based on the quality of your confession or your resolve to be a better person." - p. 226

I would strongly recommend this book to anyone who suffers from fear or worry.

September 10, 2008

Depression: a Stubborn Darkness by Ed Welch

Depression: a Stubborn Darkness: a Light for the Path is a book by Ed Welch, a prominent figure in the world of biblical counseling. In this book he seeks to provide theological and practical help for those suffering from depression as well as those who love someone suffering from depression.

He reminds the reader to not be too quick to pinpoint depression on any one cause. There are people on both extremes: depression is caused by physical causes alone (such as a chemical imbalance in the brain) or depression is caused by spiritual causes alone (such as sin). He doesn't fall into either category, but thinks that we should be skeptical of both. No one can prove either way. Most likely, these and other causes all factor in to causing depression.

I think that Ed Welch does a great job of not just outlining a bunch of to-do lists for those who are depressed. Rather, he talks through a few underlying issues and provides a few practical steps and hints someone can take without forcing some regiment on them. He devotes chapters to related issues such as fear, anger, dashed hopes, shame, guilt, and death.

I would recommend this book to anyone who might be dealing with depression now or has in the past, or anyone who loves someone who is. I feel better equipped to appropriately handle my feelings as well as loving others that I know that deal with this sensitive issue.

June 16, 2008

Calm My Anxious Heart by Linda Dillow

Linda Dillow's Calm My Anxious Heart is a book for women about contentment. I think that it's a good book about a subject that most women deal with (including me!). I guess what keeps me from saying it is an excellent book is that I've read a book on contentment (Jeremiah Burrough's Rare Jewel of Christian Contentment) that I think is better. That said, Linda Dillow does a better job applying the concepts today and making it particularly applicable to women. It also isn't intimidating like reading a 350-year-old book by a Puritan pastor might be.

Linda Dillow deals with several areas where women struggle to be content: with ourselves, with our relationships, and with our roles. She also addresses worry and trusting God with the What Ifs, the If Onlys and the Whys. Throughout the book she describes people that she has met with in her years of serving God in eastern Europe. These real life examples of content women who were struggling merely to keep their family fed and clothed provide the necessary perspective as we Americans struggle with being content with not being able to travel where we want or upgrade our already nice computer.

I appreciate that this book is one of the few on women topics that recognizes that some of the readers are unintentionally single (borrowing the term from Connally Gilliam). It is so helpful to me when the applications and examples don't automatically assume everyone who reads this is a stay-at-home mom with 2.5 kids. Especially when it's a book on contentment and that's what I want.

I would recommend this book to any women who want to learn to be more content in their life.

February 18, 2008

Shopping for Time: How to Do It All and Not Be Overwhelmed


Carolyn Mahaney and her three daughters have done a great job in Shopping for Time: How to Do It All and Not Be Overwhelmed of teaching women basic principles that they can apply to their life to better accomplish the tasks at hand. What makes it so practical is that this book is only 94 pages long. I easily read it in a (very) busy week, spending no more than 10 minutes on it any one day. It's great that you don't have to waste time while you're learning to use your time wisely.
Mrs. Mahaney and her daughters start off with a point that I've been telling myself for awhile: we can accomplish everything God would have us do, but that is most certainly not everything we have on our to-do list. God has given us enough time to accomplish what we are to do; if we don't have enough time for something, we either messed up our priorities or we weren't supposed to do it.

They lay out 5 basic principles to better use your time. These weren't really anything I hadn't heard, but they presented them in a way that made them new, as well as presented practical ways of implementing them. These principles are: rise early, sit still, sit and plan, consider people, and plan to depend.

One of the things I really appreciated about this book was that they were sensitive to the fact that we're all in different places in life. They showed several ways that I specifically can apply these principles to my life as a single woman and a student. Too many times I read books like these and they assume everyone is married with children.

I only paid $9 for it including shipping (and you can too - the sale goes to the end of the month), but it was worth so much more than that. I greatly recommend this book to any woman who has ever struggled with "doing it all." I assume every woman falls into this category, so I recommend this book to all!

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